“We can always choose to perceive things differently. You can focus on what’s wrong in your life, or you can focus on what’s right.”
~ Marianne Williamson
When was the last time you sat down and gave some serious thought as to what you want? Not just what you want in your business, but what you want in your life, in your relationships and in your day-to-day experiences?
If you’ve been following me and spending any time with Success for Solopreneurs
for any amount of time now, you should have given this some thought at least once in the past couple weeks and well, probably about a kagillion other times in the past year. 😉
I’ve begun to realize though, that while many people (especially in my community and my network) have been practicing setting intentions, they aren’t seeing or experiencing the kind of results that they’d hope for. And after having a couple folks complained to me that maybe setting intentions just doesn’t work for them, I got to thinking that maybe something funky is going on.
But this past weekend really helped me to put my finger on it. I was talking with a good friend of mine who recently closed down her coaching practice and moved across the country with her family and re-enter the corporate world.
On so many levels, she’s thrilled with her new life and her new job. And yet…she seems to be experiencing buckets and buckets of crap from everyone around her at work. So much so that she often finds herself in tears at some point or another during the day (or the commute home).
She reached out to me to process through some other stuff (something that’s not overly relevant to this particular story), but what really struck me was that she kept saying something along the lines of “I’ve set my intentions and I’m really clear, but it doesn’t seem to be working. Work is still miserable, no matter what I say I want it to be.”
Aha…did you catch it? Did you see where the mistake was made?
She wasn’t setting an intention that was allowing her to expand and experience a GREAT day. Instead she was focused on limiting her experience so that it wasn’t a MISERABLE day filled with miserable people.
That’s a big difference.
She was using her intentions as a form of protection, a way to control her environment and her interactions. She was creating a little bubble where she intended to spend her day so she could avoid everyone else’s crap and drama.
Unfortunately (or not), we don’t live in bubbles. We have no real choice but to interact with others all day, every day (even when we work from home).
But you see, the power behind using intentions isn’t in trying to limit your experiences throughout the day. It’s not in taking control of your environment and everyone that happens to be a part of that environment.
The power lies in opening yourself up to the endless possibilities that you can’t even begin to imagine experiencing throughout your day. It’s in the lessons that you’re there to learn. The messages that are in the conversations…even in the painful and annoying conversations with drama-filled and whiney co-workers.
So instead of focusing on setting intentions to control your environment, focus on setting intentions that allow you to experience a great day, one filled with joy, that’s both easy and effortless.
This simple change in how you perceive what you want and how you set your intentions can make such a HUGE difference in how those intentions do or don’t work for you. And in turn, how your day and both your experiences and your interactions touch you and your life.