“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.“~ Eleanor Roosevelt
I’ve noticed that one of the biggest stumbling blocks that soloprenuers make is that they give in to the tiny, self-criticizing voice that likes to exclaim, “who do you think you are?!?!” or “you can’t do that!!” or even “it’ll never work!!”
They often let the fear dictate what they do next…if they do anything at all.
I’ve heard it said from many of my coaches and mentors, that no matter how successful you are, no matter how much money you make, you still experiencing moments of fear and doubt. It happens with every launch, every interview, every speaking event. It just happens.
So instead of giving in to this rude and often obnoxious voice, why not figure out ways to use it to your advantage?
Maybe create a mantra that you can repeat over and over when the fears and doubts kick in? How about something like “I am exactly where I need to be.” Or my new favorite “I will continue to stand in my power as a successful business owner.” Or maybe even something short and sweet like “I know my shit!” or “My people are waiting for me to do this!”
Take a moment to acknowledge your fears and doubts. Maybe even have a little chat with them explaining that you completely understand that they’re just trying to keep you safe, but that you need to do this anyway – and if you need their help, you’ll be sure to call on them first and foremost.
Create a list or two. Maybe one list that notes all the amazing and successful things that you’ve done in your life – you’d be surprised just how many times you’ve already succeeded. This one you can look over when you need that boost. And maybe another list of the people that you’ve helped, inspired or influenced.
Set the intent. We’ve talked about this before…create the energy and the intent that things will go exactly as they need to go. It will happen effortlessly, gracefully, and for the good of all involved.
While you’re at it, try a little visioning or write out how you would love things to go. I think this is one of my favorite tools. If I can focus on how things will work out well, and what that will look like, feel like, sound like, etc, it’s hard to listen to those nay-saying voices.
Another suggestion is to spend a little time imagining the worst thing that could happen. I’m usually such a Pollyanna that I don’t go there, but I’ve seen it work with my clients. You realize that that “worst possible thing” is really so far to the extreme that the likely “it could happen” becomes nothing more than a pebble in your path.
So don’t worry about those fears and those voices. If you’ve got a plan on how to work with them (notice I didn’t say “deal with them”) then you’ll be better prepared and ready and willing to be the success you know you were meant to be.
What do you do when you start to doubt yourself and your expertise?